You've had one of those days haven't you?
When nothing seems to work. Every solution you try seems to fail. You're stuck and all you feel is resistance.
And it gets worse:
You run out of ideas. You don't know what to try next.
There's only one explanation left:
You're not cut out for this.
It's the lie we all resort to when none of our solutions work and we run out of ideas. The struggle reaches the level of our identity and who we are.
When we let the weight of our identity rest on our ability to solve problems, get things done, or come up with new ideas, it blocks the pathway to exactly what we need to move forward.
We need help.
But we can't ask for help because no one else is having the same struggle. We risk being exposed for the fraud that we really are. It will only confirm our suspicions that we don't belong in this line of work or among this group of people.
Or so we believe.
Shame makes us believe that we are the only ones with this struggle. That everyone else is killing it and the only reason we aren't is because we are broken, less than, or in the wrong space.
We believe we weren't made for this.
The truth is, you weren't made for specific work, a particular role, or a relationship.
You were made to live.
You were made to experience joy, purpose and belonging.
Not to achieve those things, but to receive them. They are a gift with no prerequisite or strings attached.
The lies we believe about how to experience those things lead us to have "those kind of days." The kind of days when nothing seems to work right. When all we face is resistance.
The days that make us begin to believe maybe we're not cut out for this.
It's not you.
You are more than your problems.
You are more than the solutions to those problems.
You are more than your ability to be creative and innovative.
Who you are is not on the line.
Remove your identity from the picture and embrace the struggle. Ask for help and find out what you learn.
It may actually lead to more joy, purpose and belonging.
On the other side of your struggle is a beautiful breakthrough. But you have to keep going to experience it.